Most dreams have layers of meaning. Sometimes we seize on the literal or
superficial elements of our dreams, avoiding the implications for ourselves. Today’s dreamer offers an example of a dream
that presents insights into a friend which are also applicable in his own life.
Dear Carolyn,
I dreamed about “Joe,” an older man I’ve been
friends with since I was a teenager. Joe
has lived his life full of regret. He is
always telling me about things he wished he’d done or had not done.
Sometimes it’s tiring and I ask myself why I have
stayed friends with such a negative person all these years because I have no
regrets. Well, to be totally honest, I guess
you could say I am disappointed or frustrated with myself. I often think about what I should be doing or
accomplishing. But only in my head. I don’t go around whining out loud!
In this dream I see Joe. He has dyed his hair blonde as it used to be
when he was young. He looks younger and
alert and healthy and frisky. He has
been called to testify in a trial or hearing of some sort. The parties involved found him via a
different name ~ Sammy Jankis ~ the name of a character
in “Memento,” a weird movie about short-term memory loss. Joe had forgotten that this was his name. Because of this new information from the
trial, Joe will inherit a large sum of money.
When I wake I have the thought that he spent a long
time in his life not appreciating the inheritance he already had, the one that
was coming to him.
Signed,
No Regrets
Dear Regrets,
Your dream has not come to tell you what you already
know about Joe. Rather it uses Joe as an
example for you. You say you are not
like him, but if your internal dialogue is one of constantly reviewing your
disappointments and frustrations, that is a form of regret. You are more like Joe than you realize.
The trial in your dream denotes a formal review and
this is called for in your case. Take a
hard look and you likely will discover that you also have short-term memory
loss! Are there recent achievements or
contributions you’ve made for which you give yourself no credit?
Your dream comes as a reminder that like Joe, you
have forgotten your earlier self. When you
were younger, most likely you had an optimistic and forward thinking outlook,
rather than the unhappy and judgmental one that dominates your self-talk.
Like Joe, you have left behind the inheritance that has
been yours all along, a happier outlook with brighter prospects. Consider focusing some time recognizing those
things you have accomplished over the years at work and at home. Start a gratitude journal to keep yourself
mindful of the many positive aspects of your life.
Check yourself, Dear Dreamer! You may be the one bringing yourself down!
Sweet Dreams to You!
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